Family test

Although it has only recently been defined, Emotional Intelligence is one of the most important abilities we have to achieve our goals. At Padres en la Nube we have taken into account four fundamental dimensions to define Emotional Intelligence.

• Emotional Control: through this skill you can deal with problematic situations at home without letting yourself be carried away by your feelings. Emotional control is a complex ability that is difficult to acquire and is also highly valued in order to be a good educator.
• Empathy: It is the ability that allows you to put yourself in another person's shoes and experience their feelings with them. Correct empathy is the kind that does not lead you to experience shared emotions, but rather allows you to contemplate them from the outside, understanding them but without letting them affect you personally.
• Emotional Expression: it provides the ability to effectively transmit feelings. It is difficult to manage and is highly conditioned by the environment and situations.
• Recognition of Errors: A good educator is one who has the maturity to recognize that he or she can make mistakes. Taking advantage of mistakes as a learning opportunity is an important aspect of people with high Emotional Intelligence.

Normativity defines your relationship with norms and your ability to create and maintain them. At Padres en la Nube we study four fundamental dimensions of Normativity.

• Establishing Standards: reflects your ability to create rules with justice and equity. It includes the management of cooperative agreements. The best assessment for this dimension is overall family functioning.
• Supervision: refers to the ability to maintain oversight of compliance with established standards. Creating a good standard is just as important as evaluating whether it is being implemented properly. It can be expressed through direct management or through delegation of functions.
• Flexibility: includes aspects that are secondary to norms, such as flexibility and adaptability. A norm makes sense in a time and space, but loses coherence if the context in which it is applied changes. Even norms can be adapted based on people and their individual characteristics.
• Family roles: In a home, norms can be established by one or more people. Sometimes, the role of each member in the family determines their ability to generate and comply with norms.

Modeling is the ability to influence or be influenced by other people through imitation. It is a powerful tool that often has an unconscious impact on education. At Padres en la Nube we have considered these two dimensions of Modeling.

• Cohesion:For identification with a Model to arise, there must first be a bonding relationship between the parties. Imitation occurs when there is interest, admiration and respect for the person to be imitated and there are clear patterns of behavior. All of this can be understood as group cohesion. An emotional union that prepares the ground for Modeling.
• Imitation: It is the act itself of Modeling, the repetition of patterns of behavior or attitudes. We can generate Modeling in behaviors, but also in thoughts or attitudes towards things. The way we communicate, our relationship habits, the tastes and hobbies that define us... All of this is susceptible to being imitated and shared by others. Also consider that these manifestations, in turn, derive from other people who have previously influenced us.

Availability refers to the perceived closeness between your family members. This attitude determines trust and, to a large extent, emotional harmony. At Padres en la Nube, we take into account these three factors that determine Availability:

• Spatial Availability: Having a good organization for family plans involves finding adequate spaces for interactions. It's not about having a big house or large rooms to meet in. The importance lies in knowing how to find the right place for each proposed activity.
• Temporary Availability: To what extent do your family members organize themselves to do activities together? The priority that each one assigns to the plans that are agreed upon at home and the commitment to carry them out on the agreed date are two important variables of this factor. Family life involves finding moments to share.
• Dedication: This dimension goes beyond space and time. It includes aspects such as the feeling of commitment and cohesion with the family, the attitude of community responsibility and sacrifice for others in the home.